They say the eyes are the windows to a person’s soul…. I truly believe this.
In fact, the realisation of this in my lifetime has proven itself time and time again both in my personal and professional relationships.
I ask each and every one of you who are closely attached to a significant other, whom you love and adore to test this out! Look deeply into his or her eyes and think about what you see. You might be thinking “what am I looking for?” Well… I’ll tell you what you should look for:
- Sparkle
- Warmness
- Love
- Respect
- Infinity (where there is no end)
and most importantly, this person should be looking back at you and you should return the favour of the above.
Now if you apply this rule to business, obviously you’re not looking for love but rather a genuine, honest and non-threatening professional connection. I’ve listed a few traits to look for and a few to avoid. I like to end things on a positive note therefore; I’ll start with those you should avoid first:
- Shiftiness
- Avoidance of eye contact
- Disconnection
- Shallowness
You’ll know how to recognise these traits when you experience them. Think about when you attend networking events… there may be some people who you meet and think to yourself later, nope.. didn’t connect with him/her so I don’t think I’ll contact them. TRUST your instincts.
Here’s what you should look for:
- Sincerity
- Integrity
- Honesty
- Openness
and of course, always pay attention to see if they are looking back and connecting with you. Genuine folk have no problem making eye contact with other people.
I do not profess to be a psychologist or an expert in this field, but I have lived, experienced and tested this in my life so why shouldn’t you?
Thanks for reading
Hands-on 🙂
Hands-On Optimist 