How To Get Dizzy

If you’re a new reader of my blog posts, I must explain that I write from my own experiences and feelings and try to connect with readers in a unique and sometimes playful way. Perhaps I’m trying to reach those who may have the same thoughts as I or haven’t yet realised that they do.

You may think that this title is peculiar and if you’re expecting a step-by-step guide on “How To Get Dizzy,” your wish is my command (with a twist)

Step 1.  “You spin me right round, baby
Right round like a record, baby
Right round round round”…. uh yep, that would work

Step 2. Someone is waiting just for you
“Spinnin’ wheel, spinnin’ true
Drop all your troubles by the riverside
Ride a painted pony let the spinnin’ wheel fly”… hmmmm perhaps something else was involved?

Step 3. “You make me dizzy, Miss Lizzy
The way you rock and roll
You make me dizzy, Miss Lizzy
When we do the stroll
Come on, Miss Lizzy
Love me before I grow too old” … Awww, that’s nice

***STOP***

Read each one carefully and ask yourself, “will these 3 steps actually make me dizzy or will I simply enjoy each moment?”

Recently, I attended a celebration event with 15 friends and family members.  We visited a beautiful city; the weather was lovely, the surroundings magical and the company fantastic.  For some of us, it was the first time spending 2 days in a row together, socialising and getting to know one another.

We played games, enjoyed good food, boogied a little on the dance floor and sang at the top of our lungs, even if it was out of key.  Nowadays, we’re all connected to devices to try and capture “moments in time,” which can be kept forever…  forever in a cloud, forever on our profiles and forever digitally.  I missed something… in fact I missed quite a few things to be honest, because I was connected in the wrong way.

I FELT present during each “moment in time,” but I wasn’t.   When we returned from this wonderful event, everyone was buzzing from happiness and we all hugged and said “farewell for now” and everyone promised to share each other’s photos and videos.  I was excited to see them and how each of us experienced our time together.  I was shocked, very sad and surprised at myself.  This was and is my wake-up call.   The videos in particular…everyone around me were singing together and I thought I was part of it.

The moments where I thought I was present, I was not.   I watched the videos and in each one, I was glued to my phone, while everyone was dancing and singing around me.  I felt sick. I wasn’t the only one, but it has hit me hard because I’m so passionate about being connected to people.

We rely on technology to make some things possible, that never were before and in a lot of instances, it’s truly amazing. My experiences of “disconnections” when I’m at work, on the train or anywhere for that matter have been baffling. A row of people on a train looking down with glazed expressions, people crossing the street engaged with their screens, who never notice traffic, work colleagues who sit in the lunch area not talking, but rather gawking. It’s not comfortable for me to watch this anymore.

After my wake-up-call, everything makes me “Dizzy” now. GIF’s, Emoji’s, face-swaps, quizzes, acronyms, which not all of us get. It’s like Vegas on the internet.   The one thing that all of these gadgets and gizmos will never do is replace a memory, a feeling and a moment, whether it’s happy or sad.   I will share a menagerie of selfies I’ve taken recently as an example and explain some of my points and the reason for this rather long and hopefully spirit awakening moment in time.

From top left:  1-Event (not present), 2-Sun on my face, on the way to our best friend’s wedding (present), 3-shopping with friend and fun with selfie mirror (present) 4-Selfie with friend trying to get best photo to post on Facebook (not present)

From Bottom left: 1-Bored selfie at home testing filters to make me look better (not present) 2-Me day at the local beach-happy with sun and toes in sand (present),

3 & 4- 2 more selfies for no reason and I couldn’t tell you what I missed, because I missed it amusing myself with snap chat filters (not present)

The moral of this story is, have real conversations, look up, look ahead,live in the moment and capture only things that matter.  If there is no person or experience attached, chose wisely as you cannot get time back.

Memories live on forever.

Thanks for reading

With love

Hands-On

 

Lyrics snippets extracted from Lyric finder 

1- (Dead or Alive)

2-(Blood, Sweat and Tears)

3-(The Beatles)

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3 Pockets- The Untold Story

 

I was born in the year of the horse, according to Chinese astrology, but that has almost nothing to do with this post. Read on and you’ll see….

During my first trip to Santorini in May of 2015, my husband and I came across this handsome devil every day on the way to our hotel from the main beach road.

Grecian friend

We always said hello and managed to catch this image.  I’m not sure if horses smile and he doesn’t appear to be.  Perhaps he’s happy and enjoying the land, visitors like us and the weather, but he’s not running free… something that made me rather sad each time I passed him on the hill.   Is he grateful for what he does have?  Does he have friend’s, a mate or even a comfortable place to live and sleep?  I don’t know, but he is there and he looks healthy and well cared for.

Next photo victim.. Me

I’m smiling, the sun’s on my face, I’m in paradise and enjoying a wonderful vacation with my one true love.  Everything is wonderful and I’m full of life.

Me

All of this is true, or is it? (scroll down for more)

 

 

 

 

 

 

It is true however; no one really knows what lies beneath.

I’ve been smiling since the day I was born (nearly) and I enjoy being happy and doing pleasurable things. I counsel friends who are down, have a playful sense of humour, have taken care of my family and husband when they weren’t well and take pleasure in finding perfect gifts for everyone in my life for special occasions or “just because.” I give a lot, probably more than is healthy for me.

I have 3 pockets.  I stuff each pocket with things that I don’t need or want while I’m enjoying life and happiness. My first pocket is close to my heart and holds the sadness of losing my father, the second pocket holds my worries… for everything and the final pocket holds my fears.. fears of health and fears of future.

The moment that I walk through my front door after a relaxing and enjoyable vacation or fun event, it’s there again. Me, the “me” that I tucked away in those 3 little pockets.  The me that has been struggling “inside” with trauma that has taken over my persona.

My outside (public self) stays positive, optimistic and playful. Nobody realises, I am a great actress and my smile hides a lot of stories.

With love-Hands-On

Optimists…we’re only human

Hide and Seek is not a game

Real me

It’s been almost 2 years since my last blog post and during that time, I feel as though I have lived a thousand lives.

Have you ever had that feeling that very few people get to know the real you? Do you open yourself up to reveal all that you have to offer the world or do you hide instead?  Let’s skip to the most important question of all..”Do you really know who you are?” 

If you do, how long has it taken you to get there?  I’m guessing that some of you will be thinking about this clearly now and may even have an answer but for those that don’t, I invite you to read on while I share my experiences.

The attached photo has great significance in my life and I have only just discovered that. In 2012, I visited my family (specifically my father who was in his 90’s).  I always seem to photograph well during certain events… which are family visits and vacations with my husband. Do you see the glow of happiness and peace in my face? In my opinion, it only occurs when you are surrounded by unconditional love, respect and support.  I liked this photo when my sister took it, so I used it for several online social media sites because it reflects the real me. I started a blog post almost 2 years ago and used this photo, but never finished the story. Today I opened my unfinished blog,enlarged the photo and noticed my father in the background as he always was, right by my side. We were very close and I miss him terribly. He was one of 4 people in my life that always knew the real me. (even before I did)

So my father has inspired this blog and I wanted to stress the importance of not only knowing yourself, but appreciating yourself for who you are and especially for those who know the real you and bring out the best in you. In conversations with my father he used to ask, “are you president of the company yet?” I replied, “not yet dad, they’re getting to know me so maybe soon”. He loved and lived for his children and we are all storytellers to a degree because of him. I’m not quite sure everyone gets me, but the people that count do. Being true to yourself and having at least one person you can be 100% you with is necessary. Without sounding big-headed, because I am so far away from that… I have learned that I am:

  • Caring
  • Sensitive
  • Loving
  • Strong
  • Supportive
  • Creative
  • Intuitive
  • Determined
  • Sympathetic
  • Empathetic
  • Honest
  • True

Like most of us who have spent our young adult lives searching for our true selves, I can honestly say that the moment happens when you’re ready and that moment for me was when my father was no longer here. He gave me a gift and now I intend to share it with others. It’s not a game folks so please try not to hide.

Are you ready to seek the real you?

I hope so!

With respect Hands-on

#Facebook vs Facetime the battle of social

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Before you start to think that I’ll be comparing Facebook (global phenomenon)  and Facetime (Apple’s clever version of Skype), I’d like to say up front and honestly this is not what my article is about.

If you have chosen to continue reading… wonderful and welcome to my thoughts.  If you were slightly disappointed, please do not despair…I think you’ll appreciate what I have to say.

Moving on… it is becoming increasingly obvious that social interactions are happening more so in a digital format, rather than face-to-face.  I think we can agree that for the most part life, work and travel has us “plugged in” at all times and I for one feel a bit weary for a re-charge in a totally different way.

How do you feel about social interactions face-to-face vs social media interactions? Is my not so obvious title starting to make sense now?    Good!

There are certain benefits to both and I’d like to list a few of the benefits of communicating in person:

  • Eye contact-essential for trust
  • Expressions-essential for communicating how you feel
  • Understanding personalities
  • Clear instructions with few misunderstandings
  • Suggestions with instant hands-on actions
  • Questions with debate in “real-time”

Now a few digital benefits:

  • Global communications
  • Aids creativity
  • Helps those who are less comfortable with face-to-face
  • Ideal for the technology industry
  • Enables flexible working

I’m sure you might add a few of your own and I would love to hear them out of interest! (This means comments are welcome)

Social technology can also save an enormous amount of time and money, when you consider the travel and preparation for professional interactions however; let us not forget that all humans need social contact to survive in this world.

Thanks for reading and I look forward to “unplugging” with all of you sometime

Hands-on 🙂